Those who advocate for gay marriage often open with the rational that “legalizing gay marriage won’t affect you, a heterosexual-married-woman.” Some of my heterosexual friends have said that they are for gay marriage because “I may not agree with homosexual relationships but I can’t see how it would impact me.” Besides, many of us are looking for meaningful ways to love the gay people in our life. So, what’s the harm?
Should we love and sacrificially serve people regardless of how they identify themselves? YES! Should we stand against those who would ostracize and bully gay youth? A true Christian will be the first to do so. Are the struggles of those who identify as gay deep and real? Absolutely.
But Friends, let’s be clear. This is not about “rights.” In Washington State, gay couples already have all the legal rights of married couples. If you think this is about “allowing” gays to marry, that’s not the full story. Legalizing gay marriage will amount to an “endorsement” of same-sex marriage and same-sex parenting. The perspective that fathers and mothers give distinctly to children and that marriage involves a unique link to children will be considered bigoted and in some cases criminalized. For those who feel I’m being sensational, I offer the video below.
You can believe in man/woman marriage and not hate gay people! I hope I make the top two list of people (rivaled by my sister) who love my mom and her partner the most! I support their right for hospital visitations, to bequeath wealth to one another, etc. But I propose that we love our gay family and friends without changing the narrative about what is best for children. Legalizing gay marriage would do exactly that.
Friends, I ask that you share this post and video on your Facebook page or with friends who are on the fence about this issue. But I warn you, be prepared for some grisly backlash. Advocating for traditional marriage is unpopular, to put it mildly.
Show compassion. Bless those who oppose you. And stand firm.
For details on how to love the gay people in your life, see “Why do you hate gays?”
For more on why I support man/woman marriage, see the five-part post “You’re only against gay marriage because of your religion.”
For ideas about how to respectfully defend traditional marriage, please read the comments following the post “You’re imposing your beliefs on me.”