Recently, a good friend shared with me that she felt like her heart was increasingly hardened toward the gay community. As a young adult, her social group was disproportionately gay and transgender men. She accompanied them to gay bars- like the kind of place where you needed an insider who knows the secret knock to get in through the hidden back-alley door. As she described it, “Um, that’s a door?” She got a first-hand education on what a Prince Albert piercing was. Heck, she had to explain it to me. Oy vey.
My friend is also a strong believer in liberty. You know, like the liberty to speak your mind for example, or to have ideas (even *G A S P* unpopular thoughts) without the heavy boot of government coming down on you. She and, apparently, many others are growing increasingly bitter at the ways that the gay identity politics are being used as a weapon to silence those who refuse to march lock step with GLAAD and the Human Rights Campaign.
Here are a sampling of some comments following the recent news story of the Idaho ministers Donald and Evelyn Knapp who are facing $1,000/day fine and jail time for refusing to conduct same-sex marriage ceremonies.
– I don’t care about same sex marriage it’s not something I really believe in, however, I sure don’t want it crammed down my throat and it sure the hell isn’t right for them to do that to ministers!
– They are bent on destroying the rights of those who are not in agreement with their life style.
– I don’t care who marries who, it’s none of my business. BUT I don’t like the government forcing people to alter their religious beliefs to accommodate others either.
The story is just the most recent of a growing list of those who have been fined and/or coerced into violating their consciences in the name of “marriage equality.” A GROWING LIST of people who were told that “gay marriage won’t effect you,” being forced to comply at the point of a gun – because that is what government is people. It’s force. It’s “Do what we say or we take your freedom, whether we bleed you dry financially or imprison you”. How do you enforce when someone will not lay down for you? Someone who won’t abide by your threats? You come and arrest them. With a gun. By force. Don’t kid yourself.
So, if I were five and a half I would do a little victory twirl, point at you and raspberry followed up by a big fat TOLD YOU SO. But I am above that. A little. So here it is.
I told you so.
We all told you so.
It’s no longer just a culture clash of ideals regarding the definition of marriage. Now it’s: do what we tell you to do or loose your freedom.
May I suggest to those die-hard gay marriage advocates that this is not the best method of winning hearts and souls to your cause? Crucifying dissenters of gay marriage simply engenders a smoldering resentment among onlookers. Look at how well it worked for the Romans. Did they put the kibosh on that Jesus guy or what?!?! It may swell your ranks on the surface but you are not genuinely winning people to your side. It’s akin to this sentiment from ISIS on how the Yadzi women and children who have been taken as slaves have responded to Islam:
Many of the [Yadzi] women and children have willingly accepted Islam and now race to practice it with evident sincerity after their exit from the darkness of [polytheism].
Sure they do!! Much like they can’t wait to hastily divorce their husbands so they can be sold and “married” to an ISIS fighter and legally raped under Sharia law.
Where was I.
I was still near the top of the slope we call slippery and luckily I have marching orders for you.
First, we must be ready to do battle. We must educate ourselves. It is our civic duty to learn about marriage policy and be involved in grass-roots advocacy. Get familiar with issues and stories that intersect with marriage such as pornography, cohabitation, divorce, same-sex attraction, adoption and third-party reproduction. Learn about how poverty, incarceration rates, low academic achievement, early sexual behavior, rates of mental illness, and many other social ills are connected to the health of the family. Following Public Discourse, the Ruth Institute, and English Manif are good places to start. Investigate CanaVox– where you can really put your passions to good use.
Secondly, give to the organizations that fund the legal fight, who represent the cake-maker and pastor and photographer often free of charge, and who defend the citizen-approved definition of marriage when it is challenged in court. Alliance Defending Freedom, Heritage Foundation, and The Becket Fund are some of those.
First, LOVE. (you get it, I know you do) We must resist the urge to distance ourselves from the gay people in our life because of our frustrating legal and political landscape. The uglier the political battle becomes, the more beautiful our attempts to draw in our gay friends should be. Be the generous, loving, service oriented Christ-like person you are directed to be and if it doesn’t come sincerely, ask God to help you with that. Your God is the same one who formed them in the womb, who knows when they sit and when they rise, and who fearfully and wonderfully made them. When your lesbian neighbor thinks of you, let it be that she wonders “How is it that someone who is diametrically opposed to me politically loves me better than most?”
Media and politics teach us that we can only love someone if we agree with them.
Christianity teaches us to love someone because we disagree with them.
It’s going to take adults loving adults, loving freedom and exercising restraint to wade through this mess.
Our kids are watching us, let’s not act like them.