A few of you have been a little bewildered by my most recent post, “Best Wishes.” Please allow me to explain.
First, I was being completely serious. It’s easy to read snark into the written page- that is where the cyber world falls dreadfully short of the face-to-face ideal. But I assure you, I was being honest and my prayer/blessing is earnest.
Second, on the use of the term “Congratulations.” I acknowledge here that there are those who supported R-74 for whom this was a great personal victory. Some will be able to move forward with their dream of marriage to their partner.
I recognize (as they do) however that a seismic shift has occurred in the mindset of the American public- due in large part to the full-board media onslaught in normalizing alternative families (the kids on TV do great without a mom and dad, after all.) The fall-out will not be realized on December 9 when the first weddings take place, but in twenty or thirty years when the children of gay couples look back and speculate about what it would have been like to have been raised by a mom and a dad and stand in wonder at the lost idea of being know by the two people who made them. Until then (when large-scale representative studies are conducted with random samples) prime time will continue to tell us that fathers and/or mothers are optional- and if you are raised by two moms, you’ll turn out even better.
Third- why write the post? Well friends, I will be honest. It wasn’t easy. Whether it is no-fault divorce, pregnancy by cohabitation, sperm-donation, gay marriage, etc… all those arrangements have one thing in common: it may fulfill the desires of parents, but it’s not best for kids. Now we have just institutionalized a family structure that by its definition can never be “in-tact.” It will always begin with brokenness for the child- in that they will lack a biological connection with one or both parents, and will miss out on the benefit of having the long-term involvement of both genders.
And yet, if I am to be a serious follower of Christ, I will obey Him and not my feelings. Did I want to pray for and bless the supporters of R-74? No. (Hint- not fully sanctified yet.) I felt like doing the opposite. But guess what, Christians don’t make decisions based on feelings. They make decisions based on principle. So when Romans 12:14 say that I should “bless those who persecute you, bless and do not curse,” then I must bless in any way that I honestly can. (While I’m not claiming that I’m persecuted, there is a fair amount of hostility toward me for blogging about this.)
Christians, our nation has turned a corner. In an effort to “keep ourselves unspotted from the world” many of us have become cultural isolationists. So it’s time to truly shed “self” and put on Christ. Salt cannot have its preserving effect if it never touches the meat. This is no longer- and honestly never has been- about being comfortable in our U.S. citizenship. This Christian life is about living like Christ’s return is for real. It is manifest as Christ transforms lives though our humble obedience to His costly commands.
Brothers and sisters, the best time to become socially relevant was 20 years ago. The next best time is right now.
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