How would you respond if you were the victim of an egregious injustice? An injustice that wreaked destruction in every aspect of your life and the lives of your precious children? You were the casualty of a wrecking ball that plunged you into financial ruin, upended your entire life, and dragged your innocent children into an emotional horror show?
And further still?
A celebration that thrusts your children into an unwanted spotlight. They are used, against your will, as poster children for the oh-so-progressive narrative carefully sculpted by the liberal media. Your tragedy is heralded as a milestone in the fight for human rights.
Well, rights for the popular crowd at least. You and your children’s rights are not important to the narrative.
You just might be tempted to attack and destroy. You’ve been harmed, and the natural human tendency is to do what has been done to you. But, because you are a woman of character and deep faith, destroying others does not factor into your list of options.
But you do not go home in quiet defeat either. You refuse to pay homage to the Politically Correct police and you will not cower or bend to the bullying of a well-funded media or pop-culture elites; those who will tell you that there are only rainbows and unicorns at the end of the redefinition of marriage. Nope.
Although the betrayal is near unbearable, it is your duty as a mother to protect the father/child relationship as much as possible and it is your Christian duty to not demonize the man to whom you once committed your life, nor his new partner.
Because your convictions are solid, you do not remain silent but choose to tell your story in a way that doesn’t slander those who have wronged you. You speak the facts plainly and do not shy away from the ugly details. But you make sure to keep your children and ex-husband’s information private. You are honest about how you and your children have been affected, while simultaneously abiding by the court’s decree and as you encourage your children to have a strong relationship with their father.
That’s a fine line to walk, no?
But that is exactly the line my quiet, unassuming friend stepped onto this week. She bravely laid herself bare and shared the truth of how redefining marriage has personally affected her and her children. The recap: Her husband left her for his lover. The judge, in an effort to set a precedent and likely, under the premise that “the gay spouse is the victim” in the marriage, ruled disproportionately in favor of her ex-husband. The fall out for her and her children has been severe. When I say severe, please read: so painful she was not willing to share the depths of their suffering publicly.
Her story has been liked and shared at a surprising rate. My guess as to why? It is the Real Deal and the truth has a ring to it. It is not another dose of gay marriage happy talk that makes its way into our sitcoms and front-page articles. She has, God forbid, dared to state the facts. She exposed herself and courageously shared a story that challenges the photo-shopped depictions of shiny happy same-sex headed households.
What comes next has become all too predictable. So predictable you should just stop reading and head to Facebook for some neat kitty pictures and propaganda memes. But I am here to the end because my friend’s story deserves to be told.
Her truth telling has been too much for some in the left. As far as they are concerned she is not supposed to exist; this heartbreaking story shouldn’t exist. The extreme gay marriage lobby has worked so hard to construct a perfect picture of gay marriage and gay parenting that the revelation of the kind of brokenness on which many same-sex headed households are founded is threatening. That kind of truth is ugly and does not sell well with the cocktails-at-five crowd.
So, predictably, my friend is under assault. According to the PC police, swift and severe punishment is due. They have the worst kind of bigot on their hands. A pesky, daring one whose life and story threatens to open the eyes of a public who has been painstakingly groomed.
They are up to the really nasty maneuvers this time. They are digging deeply to find what little identifying information they can, and are exploiting it. They have found her ex and made sure he knows of the evil she dares speak. They have contacted her employer to make sure they know they have a bigot and “gay-basher” working for them. In other words? They seek to completely ruin what she has slowly rebuilt since the wrecking ball first hit.
At this point what would you do, dear reader? I would be tempted to run. Or fret. Or attack. Or vomit. Or a combination of all of those.
But my convicted, Jesus following, faithful friend has chosen to stand firm. She is ever aware of her own failings and shortcomings, and asking that God will refine her through this process. She is petitioning God to bless those who persecute her. She is on her knees for her ex-husband and his partner. She is stalwart in assuring that every word she speaks about them and with them is truthful and gracious. And she will continue to be a rock for her children, come what may.
I am honored to stand shoulder to shoulder with this woman.
I don’t know how else I can be of service to her other than to ask that you pray on her behalf.
God knows I am.