So back to the three sweet girls I mentioned in my last post. They asked me to state in two minutes my case for traditional marriage. Here it is:
Millennials, if any generation understands the pain of fragmented family, it is you. Never before has our nation witnessed more children who are growing up outside of a married-mother-father home. There is a good chance that you and/or many of your close friends don’t get to live full-time with, be loved by, or be raised by one or both of your parents. You get that there is serious pain and loss in that arrangement. Maybe grandparents, aunts and uncles, or neighbors have stepped in. Hopefully the church is there by your side. I bet that the parent you are living with is doing the best s/he can under difficult circumstances. But something that belongs to you, by right of your birth, has been lost. I don’t take that lightly. And I bet you don’t either.
Divorce, negligent/absent parents, single parenting, adults choosing to have children via sperm donors, gay couples, cohabitating couples- all of those arrangements are a reality of this world. And our country rightly permits people to make decisions about how they want to live. But as a nation, if we are going to *promote* a family structure by enshrining it into law, shouldn’t it be one where kids have the hope of being raised by their mother and their father? Friends, gay marriage (or the other alternative family arrangements above) can never accomplish that. For a child, there is no such thing as an “in-tact” gay household. If the parents want a family, the child has to lose his biological mom or dad.
Standing for traditional marriage is not popular, as you well know. And it’s ok to disagree with others about this. But, mis chicas bonitas, don’t let anyone convince you that by saying “kids need, long-for, and deserve a mother and father” you are bigoted or ignorant. You are just stating what ever child, within or without a nuclear family, knows innately.
For more on why kids need a mother and a father, see the five-part post “You’re only against gay marriage because of your religion”